the assurance “nobody is judging you” is straight up false
Yes, People Are Judging You — And You Have To Be Okay With It
Get one thing straight: the reassuring notion that “no one is judging you” is a lie. People absolutely judge you. It is just human nature: we judge what we see, hear, and experience. Here’s the kicker-you have to be all right with it. The attempt at trying to steer clear of judgment is draining, to say the least, and impossible. Everyone has filters, biases, and opinions about something, and regardless of what you do, people will just form judgments based on their own perspectives.
The answer is not caring. Other people’s judgments do not determine who you are. Just because some people have an opinion about you doesn’t make it the truth or change the way you live to fit in with their ideology. You may not be able to control what other people think of you, but you can control how much value you give to those thoughts. What matters most, however, is how you feel about yourself.
The moment you accept that judgment is bound to find its way to you, you end the burden of trying to please everybody. So go ahead and let people judge you; they’re either wrong or right in their minds. You live for your life, not for others’ validation or approval.
