Why Am I always living in My Head?

It’s been eight years, and still, I am not living in the present. I realize i am doing it, but I can’t seem to stop. What does the present even feel like? And then I cry. I want to truly live.

Living in Your Head: The Silent Struggle of Disconnection

Many people live with a quiet but powerful struggle that no one even notice. They are living entirely in their heads. For those who are experience it, they feel exhaust and isolated. While physically present, mentally, they are somewhere else — trapped in a loop of overthinking, making fake imaginary scenarios, bringing up past conversations or talking to themselves or anyone in their heads. This thing leaves them disconnected from the present, from reality, and from the people around them.

What does living in your head feels like?

A Constant Inner Dialogue

For many, the mind is always in race. There’s an endless stream of thoughts, self-talk, and fake imagined scenarios. Conversations replay in their heads. They create fake future scenarios, or worse, live on past mistakes, reading and analysing every small detail. This brain is too loud, leaving little room for quiet or peace.

A Sense of Being Elsewhere

Even while doing everyday tasks, spending time with family, eating, or walking. They are being elsewhere. You’re physically in one place, but mentally you’re in a different world, lost in a world that no one can access. It’s as if life is happening around you, but you’re not truly participating in it.

The Weight of Fake Scenarios

Creating fake scenarios about the things that never truly happened, but play out repeatedly in the mind. These scenarios can be anything from imagining worst-case scenarios or past conversations or making conversations. Even though these events are not real, they have a very real emotional impact.

Emotional Numbness

People who are constantly in their heads after some time they are start to feel emotionally numb. They are constantly lost in mind that they don’t even have true feelings or feel anything for the people around them. Life becomes dull, boring, present moments pass without being felt, joyless, no love or excitement is left. Their heart becomes numb too. Because their mind is somewhere else.

Anxiety and Depression

Living in head also brings anxiety and depression. Constantly thinking about future, imagining different world, or obsessing over past event or fake events can lead to depression, worry and fear. Mind is always making worst scenarios, thinking what could go wrong, or thinking about situations before they even happen or never happened. This mental overdrive can lead to mental illness.

Disconnection from the Present

The most painful part of living in your head is the disconnection from the reality. The present feels blank, almost unreachable. No matter how hard you try, your mind pulls you away back into thoughts, memories, or fantasies. You miss the details of your present moment, the conversations you’re having. Living a life that not being aware of the life.

Grieving the Lost Time

For many, the realization that they haven’t been living in the present can be heart-breaking or depressing. Years are passing without being a part of those years. Family time, relationships, friends gathering and even simple daily life experiences feel like they were missed because you were too busy living in your head. This grief often brings sadness, regret, and depression.

Breaking the Cycle

It may feel difficult to get out of that, but breaking that cycle is possible. The first step is to observe your mind’s problem. Practise mindfulness. Focus on your breath, feel the ground touching your feet, listen to any voices in present moment. This will help the mind to stay in present moment. It’s difficult to come back to reality after being stuck in another dimensional world. But it is also not possible